Shut the duck up

You  may  be  wondering  why  this is  called  “Shut  the  Duck  Up!”    A fellow Life Coach friend  of mine  at  one  time  worked  with  a  famous  sportsman,  who  once  spectacularly  lost  his  temper  and  attacked  a  spectator  during  a  match.  

In  their  session,  my colleague  tried  to  work  with  the  athlete,  to  help  him  understand  his  actions.  It  wasn’t  happening;  the  sportsman  looked  confused  by  talk  of  inner  voices  and  dialogue.  But,  suddenly,  it clicked:

“Ah…  you  mean  the  duck  in  my  head?”

The  man  genuinely  believed  he  had  a  duck  living  in  his  head,  “quacking”  away  at  him  all  the  time  and  telling  him  what  to  do.  And  that’s,  unfortunately,  true  to  many  people’s  inner  voice.  It’s  not  a  supportive,  kind  stream  of  consciousness;  it’s  often  harsh  and  can  even  give  you  bad  advice,  as  with  our  sportsman.  

The question is, “do you have a duck in your head?” Do you have an unhelpful inner voice?

As a life coach I am fascinated by our beliefs, thoughts  and  emotions  and how they can profoundly  affect  what  we  say  to  ourselves,  the  questions  we  ask  ourselves,  and  therefore,  the  attitude  we  have  toward  any  situation  in  our  lives. The  perceptions  we  form  in  our  inner  world  determines  what  actions  we  take  (or  fail  to  take)  in  our  outer  world.  

So,  if  we  desire  a  different  result  in  any  area  of  our  lives,  we  need  a  different  dialogue in  our  head.  We  also  need  to  ask  a  different  question.    So  here’s  a  question  for  you:    

What  three  things  do  you  believe are  costing  you  greatly  in  multiple  areas  of  

your  life?  

The  beliefs  that  direct  our  lives  are  either  conscious  or  unconscious.    Some  are  true, and  some  are  false;  some  make  us  feel  good,  some  serve  us  and  others  hurt  us. 

Sometimes the  question  is  not whether  a  belief  is  true  or  false,  (as  often  that’s  far  too  subjective  to  answer  with  absolute  objectivity),  but  rather,  is  this  belief  useful? Does this belief make my life better  in  any way?    Or, is it causing  me  pain,  frustration  and  limiting  my  quality  of  life,  work  and  relationships?  Clearly, if the consequences of  a  belief  reflect  the  latter,  we  would  be  better  served with  one  that  is  more  aligned  with  whom  we  want  to  be.

The only guaranteed constant in our lives is that change  is  constant  in  our  lives.    

This axiom grows truer every day.    How we respond and adapt to  change,  as  well   as  our  ability  to  create  change,  may  well  be  the  key  to,  (or  lock  on),  our  quality  of  life.    

It’s our attitude to  change  that contributes  to  much  of  the  struggle and frustration  many  people  have  with  it;  whether  that  be  changing  their  body  or  any  aspect  of  their  lives  that  they  deeply  desire.

By shutting your duck up, you’ll eliminate  much  of  what  has  frustrated  your  efforts  to   make  changes  in your  life  so  far. 

Pete Cohen

Pete Cohen is one of the worlds leading Life Coaches, Motivational speakers and Health and Fitness Professionals.  Pete is highly qualified in many different areas of psychology, personal development.  He has an incredible understanding of people and the limitations they have which prevent them from living more productive and happy lives. His fun motivational techniques and strategies are used in a way to help people control their own well-being and realise their full potential.

Pete is the author of 18 best-selling books.

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